Best Advice I Can Give Women, As a Woman
If you want children, marry the best provider you can find and suck it up. Forget fairytales and romance novels — this is about survival, stability, and giving your kids the best shot at life.
Children do not thrive with a struggling mother. A stressed, overworked, unsupported mom becomes a battlefield — and kids carry those scars forever.
The best gift you can give your future children is a mother who is calm, cared for, and fully present. That only happens when her basic needs are met without constant strain. A peaceful home is priceless.
So:
• Marry for provider status. Your presence is your children’s lifeline.
• Never marry at all if you don’t want kids. Don’t tie yourself to unnecessary struggle.
• Don’t gamble your kids’ wellbeing on romance. Choose the man who can create a peaceful, stable environment for their mother.
A pampered, provided-for mother creates children who feel safe, loved, and secure. Anything less, and you’re setting them up for a life of trauma.
Generational Curses Are Real
My mother, unlike her sisters, married a broke man who treated her like trash. For decades I resented her for it — because I grew up knowing exactly what I missed out on. Instead of being comfortable, fed, safe, and provided for, I grew up traumatized, watching my father destroy everything.
I swore I’d never marry a man like him. But I did — I married worse.
I swore I’d never be a doormat like her. But I was treated even worse than she was.
And my sons paid the price. They suffered the consequences of choices I made long before they were born.
That’s the reality of generational curses: they don’t disappear until someone wakes up and breaks them. I’m still breaking them.
Here’s the truth:
• Marry for the life that man can provide your future children.
• If he can’t provide stability, don’t even start dating him.
• Dusty bums don’t just waste your time — they steal your children’s futures.
Your kids will either inherit your curses or your courage. Choose wisely.
Carey Ann George
