The Magnetism of Love vs The Repulsion Of Trauma

Everything in life is magnetic.

Every emotion, every thought, every energy you hold within you is communicating something — pulling in or pushing away.

This is why love, when forced, doesn’t work.

And why pain, when left unhealed, creates distance between even the closest souls.

Force pushes away. Freedom attracts.

The tighter you grip, the more they pull back. The more you chase, the faster they run. The more you beg to be seen, the more invisible you become. It’s not punishment — it’s physics. A magnet cannot connect while its polarity is reversed.

Pain and fear carry a negative charge. They repel. They send an energetic signal that says, I am incomplete without you. And so the very energy meant to pull love closer ends up pushing it away.

But when you let go — truly let go — the polarity shifts.

The charge changes. The energy becomes neutral, open, receptive.

And suddenly, what was once running from you begins to drift back, drawn not by guilt or obligation, but by the quiet strength of your peace.

This is true of all relationships — lovers, friends, and yes, even our children.

Children are not drawn to guilt. They are drawn to warmth. They are not inspired by our suffering; they are magnetized by our aliveness. When they see us living, smiling, rebuilding — not in spite of them, but simply because we have chosen life — they remember the vibration of love, not pain.

They come back when the energy feels safe again.

When the charge of grief, resentment, and longing dissolves into peace.

Begging for contact is the ultimate form of self-betrayal.

It teaches children that love is earned through the denial of self.

It teaches them to trade their integrity for approval, to betray their own boundaries for connection. And that is the opposite of love.

Love requires self-respect. It cannot exist without it.

Because when you abandon yourself, you teach others that your worth is negotiable. You teach them that your peace depends on their behavior — and then suffering becomes a choice you keep making.

Every moment, you have the power to shift the magnet.

You can ruminate on the pain, or you can live.

You can feed the charge of grief, or you can turn your energy toward creation, joy, presence.

When you choose peace, when you heal the charge within you that is energetically pushing them away, the field shifts.

You become magnetic again.

And what is meant for you begins to return.

Love attracts. Grief and pain detract.

Force pushes away. Freedom draws near.

The law is simple:

Love is freedom.

Freedom begins with self-respect.

And the moment you stop begging for what is already yours by nature — love, worth, peace — everything that belongs to you begins to find its way home.

Affirm softly:

I release force and choose flow. I live, I breathe, I trust. My peace attracts what is meant for me. Love returns when I become love again.